Although kids usually have a long list of what they want to do during summer vacation, hardly a week has gone by before every parent hears that dreaded complaint: “I’m so bored.”
More than any other time in history, our children have an abundance of things to keep themselves occupied. But perhaps this is exactly the problem: children these days don’t know the delight of boredom.
Although most people hate being bored, boredom is the key to unlocking new ideas, games, and thinking. Here are some ways to embrace your child’s boredom this summer!
Benefits of Boredom
Children are often surrounded by endless toys and jam-packed schedules. They are rarely left alone long enough to experience the discomfort of boredom; if they are, it’s easy to “chill” and fill this time with video games. Why should we let–or even encourage–our children to be bored? Here are a few reasons:
- Fosters Creativity: Children overcoming boredom must dig into their creativity to find something inspiring and fun. Creativity in play will aid them in creativity with schoolwork, art, and social life.
- Problem-Solving Skills: Creativity requires problem-solving. How can they overcome obstacles to complete their idea? Successful adults are excellent problem-solvers, and these skills start in play
- Frustration Tolerance: Our modern, ultra-fast society gives children few opportunities to practice patience. Boredom helps them develop patience.
- Self-Confidence: Relying on oneself to overcome boredom increases a child’s self-confidence. They’re not reliant on a parent, peer, or technology–they can think and act for themselves.
Don’t Give Them Ideas
Bored kids often seek out their parents to help them relieve their boredom. Parents, who often want to stop the complaining, are quick to provide solutions. However, this robs children of the opportunity to think for themselves. Additionally, children who find their own way to relieve their boredom are more satisfied in their solution and engaged in their play for longer.
Instead of rattling off a list of favorite or forgotten toys, try these phrases to help your child see the gift in boredom:
- “I’m so excited to see what you’ll find to do!”
- “I know you’ll think up something amazing to do!”
- “Boredom is your brain waking up to be creative!”
- “You have a great opportunity to decide what to do with your time.”
- “I’m glad you have some time to relax since we’ve been so busy.”
Embrace the Mess
Once kids unlock their creativity, a mess is quick to follow! To play camping, they might gather up blankets, pillows, play food and dishes, flashlights, backpacks, and more, for their campsite. This can result in a big mess! But it’s your job as a parent to not stress about the mess… yet.
Of course, it’s appropriate to remind your children that whatever they get out or mix together, they need to sort and put away. But as long as they accept these terms, then let their creativity remain unhinged! If nothing else, it will teach your children the importance of only playing with what they want to clean up.
Set Boundaries on Technology
With a cell phone in nearly every pocket, adults and children alike are quick to alleviate even a moment of boredom with the touch of a button. It is rare to stand in line, wait in traffic, or even use the restroom without a device to occupy our attention.
To gain the benefits of boredom, parents must set boundaries on technology time. While it’s fine to have a tablet, phone, or game time, it shouldn’t be for hours on end. Most pediatricians agree that during the summer, kids should have no more than two total hours of tech time. These two hours should be further broken up into 15 or 20-minute increments with other activities between.
Setting firm boundaries on technology will enable your children to have a healthy relationship with technology and branch out to find other interests in creative play.